How to plan a retirement party that feels personal

A retirement party brings together people who rarely share a room: coworkers, family, old friends and former colleagues. Aim the night at who they are outside the office, and the career stuff will take care of itself.

Ask what they'd enjoy

Some retirees want a big send-off. Others would rather have a relaxed dinner. Ask, or ask someone close to them. A surprise only works if the guest of honor likes surprises.

Mix the guest list on purpose

Coworkers know one side of the person, and family knows another. Seat them together, or plan a moment where both get to share a story.

Keep the speeches short

Two or three short toasts, planned ahead, are better than an open microphone. Ask each speaker for one story, not a career summary.

Collect memories in advance

A memory book, a slideshow of old photos or a few recorded messages from people who can't attend all mean a lot. Start gathering them a few weeks before the party.

Don't make them host

The retiree shouldn't spend the night refilling drinks or worrying about the cake. Assign a point person, arrange their ride home, and have someone gather the cards and gifts so they can take everything in later.